After my divorce, and when I was a young adult I struggled to find happiness. I simply didn’t know how to be happy and I needed to figure out what was preventing me from feeling happy. I really had no reason to be unhappy.
I had a loving and supportive family, college education, my children, and nice things. I generally got what I wanted when I was young, whether it was nice new clothes for school, or a nice car. I had some really great life-long friends as well. What reason did I have to be unhappy?
I realized after a lot of soul searching and reading lots of books and articles, that there was one person getting in the way of my happiness.
It was me.
I was the reason I was unhappy.
I simply didn’t know how to be happy and after my divorce I was basically paralyzed. I thought happiness was something you feel as a reaction to something else. I thought happiness occurs as result of some sort of stimulus.
What I finally realized is that there is no stimulus. Some people have all kinds of reasons to be happy but they still aren’t.
You have to make yourself happy.
Happiness is a choice.
You have to make a conscious effort every day to be happy.