Who should pay for dinner? The man, evolutionarily and biologically speaking…what?

If you study Evolutionary Psychology you will learn that our brains and habits are defined by what our ancestors needed, not really what we need now! Pretty crazy right? Our brains are only evolved enough to face the problems our ancestors faced. Our brains don’t evolve as fast as this quickly changing world.

Biology dictates that when a woman is pregnant, at some point, she will be unable to solely provide for her child. Whether it’s for weeks to months is the question of course because woman are now more financially self-sufficient and more independent.

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Broken Relationships vs. Broken People

How to identify the difference.

Unfortunately, I’ve had a lot of experience with broken people in my life. I even had to deal with a broken person lately which is why I’m writing this post today. I’ve also had a lot of experiences with really great people! I have solid references for both.

I believe you must remove or set strict boundaries with broken people. When you allow broken people into your life you are unable to live in peace. Broken people in your life allow for constant disruption and conflict. It’s extremely frustrating.

Sometimes is hard to tell the difference between a broken person and a broken relationship. It can take years to identify a broken person, especially if you’re kind-hearted and like to help others.

How to you identify someone as broken? How do you tell the difference and what are some clear signs?

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Did you totally start slacking lately and aren’t delivering on your goals? Are you a slacker? Guess what? I’ve been slacking a bit…for the past month. Guess, what? We ALL slack from time to time.

I don’t care how “perfect” you think that person is that you compare yourself to on social media. You know you do it. We all do.

Nobody lives 100% perfectly all the time. We all slack from time to time. It may look a little bit different for everyone, but we all slack off every now and then.

I typically run about 12-15 miles per week. Sometimes, I run three miles and sometimes I run seven miles at once. Basically, I have a weekly goal and I’m flexible with how I get there.

The past month I didn’t run at all! Slacker!

I also used to smoke. Guess what I did? I started smoking again.

Crap.

I know that when I don’t run, I will smoke. Why? Smoking and running are respiratory therapy for me. Both allow me to breathe deeply and focus on my thoughts. One is healthy of course while the other isn’t!

My wine intake also went up because I wasn’t running. Don’t worry. Nothing crazy, but I have anxiety and running is my way of handling it. Without running, I also require wine in the evening.

I sound like a hot mess, right? Boy did I just fall off the bandwagon or what?

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I continue to see a recurring theme among good men in relationships. I’ve had phone consults with really good men who are worried about their wives. They’re worried about their wife’s happiness or issues that their wives struggle with.

When I say good men, I’m referring to the men who are loving and supportive of their wife. These men provide a sense of peace to the relationship. These are the men who take responsibility for caring for their family.

This recurring theme, however, keeps them in a place of total responsibility for another human.

This is unfortunate.

Good men feel a sense of obligation to care for and protect their wife.

That’s great, but this does not mean that you’re responsible for her happiness.

It simply doesn’t.

Men…you’re NOT responsible for your wife’s overall happiness. If your wife or girlfriend is unhappy, even when you do everything to support her, then that’s on her.

You have not failed her. You are not to blame. It’s actually not even about you!

Do you feel like you’ve done everything possible in your relationship to positively contribute to your wife’s happiness and she’s still unhappy?

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Are you ready for dating strategies? Are you ready to get tactical?

How do you know when you’re ready to start getting super strategic with dating?

There’s relationship and dating advice galore out there. There’s dating gurus who will sell you all kinds of dating strategy.

They have countless products meant to help you get super strategic with dating.

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